— 3 minute read — read Entry 6 here
God I’m getting pretty tired, of BUFFER. Supposedly it should make your life easier by scheduling social media content, but no.
Venting real quick:
My major challenge is disciplined writing. I therefore schedule the posts every day at 8.00 AM Amsterdam time. I don’t want to change that because I don’t want to mess with my streak. However, scheduling to share a post that does not yet exist is proving to be quite difficult. Therefore you use buffer, but little bitch Buffer ain’t uploading my shit. So I want to straight up bust Buffer’s face up real good. Buffer keeps on posting non-existent links to my Facebook followers spamming their feeds.
I apologize for this. Showing my vulnerability means also showing my anger, right? It’s a part of me.
Let’s start celebrating failure
I want to talk about failure. I think we as a society look at failure in an absolutely unforgiving way. Celebrating one’s failures is the single greatest thing one can do at any point in his or her life. Accepting failure means embracing weakness and vulnerability.
As I’m checking my girlfriend’s Instagram all I see is perfection. Not a single hint of failure. Perfect chicks with affiliate Amazon links to all their sponsored shit. Everything is happy, we’re all traveling about through Mallorca sipping mohitos, everybody does that right? I think for women it’s even worse than men, with the idealistic woman’s body shape you lassies are absolutely being brainwashed by Instagram. It’s so interesting that not a sole locus of control is brainwashing everyone, like in 1984. Instead, everyone is participating in a collective brainwashing!
The perfect “perfect” social media platform
There should be a social media platform that only has dislikes and negative feedback options. A social media network where everybody posts their most awful pictures and thoughts: a place online where everybody can poor the darkness of their souls, their setbacks, and their failures. It will be a reminder to us all that life ain’t like the pictures.
Ex-CEO of Home Depot Frank Blake says “that you get what you celebrate”. I really, really like that. I easily get distracted in the rat race of Dutch life. We’re a sober people, I am a really sober person. I don’t celebrate often. Perhaps it’s because we are so frantically keeping up with our to do lists, we don’t notice when we actually achieve something. It just feels that we are trapped in a never ending loop that will never yield some true satisfaction. Perhaps it’s because the satisfaction is already within us? Let’s start by celebrating the good and the bad things.
The potential upside of facing your demons
Do not hide your failures from the perfect Instagram world, expose them! Bring the darkness of failure into the light. It won’t be able to deal damage there. Because if you start celebrating your failures, you’ll learn from them. You’ll become conscious of what you did wrong, you’ll accept it, and that’s the first step towards improvement and more importantly: conscientiousness (I’ll have to make a separate blog post about that).
Additionally, if you start raising sake glasses to cheer your failures, imagine how batshit insane the celebration parties of your wins are going to be! Hell grab a giant keg, pour three handles of soda juice, two handles of wodka, and crumble up about 200 milligrams of MDMA and you’re looking at a mighty fine rager! If that’s not really your style, you could also fill up an empty Mr. Clean spray with liquid LSD and dispense it on the nearest raving crowd near you. Whatever suits your style, I don’t judge.
But seriously, if you’re celebrating your failures, the celebrations of your actual wins will only become better. Now “better” is fucking vague. In other words: you’ll learn from your failures, you’ll enjoy your celebrations, you increase your happiness, you increase your confidence because in your mind there’s now a tiny little space devoted to that celebration and the CAUSE that you did that made it possible to happen. Congrats, you’re on your way to becoming an absolute champ!
Thanks for the reads kids, I plan to insert a mailing list and a framework for sharing by the end of this week to make it easier for all y’all folks to share my stuff.